AZOI you are absolutely right – it makes no difference who the source of the shidduch is. Very few people whose names are given by the boy or girl are going to be candid, though. if you have heard of such people, then they are the exception or had reshus from the family to speak candidly. Most people like to put their BEST foot forward, so they choose references who will bedavka enhance their image, NOT speak candidly about their flaws. Kind of like a used car salesman. I myself do prefer to network, but I don’t necessarily know people who live in the communities of a proposed shidduch.
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