Reply To: Dating Someone You’ve Already Dated

aries2756: I don’t think I did anything particularly wrong when I was going out with her, there are some things I would have done differently but nothing major. I understand what you are saying about not trying to force things, I’m not looking at it as if I have to go out with her again and then everything is going to be perfect and we’ll get married, although that would be nice. I am thinking that it is possible that the problem is just a misunderstanding or possibly that she just wasn’t ready (there is a good reason for me to think both of these) and that if I go about it properly it can only be a good thing. If she says no at least I did my part and she would know how I feel and that alone would make me feel better. I know that if it’s meant to be it will be and if not not, as long as I do my part.

As far as changing to please someone, I’m very honest about who I am and I’m not going to change but I think (hope) it’s possible that marrying someone “better” than me would make me better in some ways. Does that not happen?

Thanks for the advice