Both Nathan and YFR has stepped over the line a bit here. What oomis is trying to tell you is there are many perspectives and points of view to every issue and if you take a small step to the right or left you can view the same issue from another person’s perspective.
Both Oomis and I are grandparents, so we have lived through our own generation of teen Purims, we have lived through our children’s generation of teen Purims and we are very concerned about the current and future Purims of our grandchildren and other family members, neighbors and friends.
On the other hand as young men, you are only privy to your own experiences that are relevant to your own age and lifestyles. When these two Chashuv Rabbonim come out in public to make this proclamation understand they didn’t do it on a whim. They did so for very serious reasons according to Halacha, Torah and experience. They have seen way more than either you or I and that is saying a lot from my perspective. You can’t possibly see the whole picture from your position as someone with more life experiences who have already traveled in your path.
WE know that you THINK you know everything. WE know that you THINK you know more than we do. But let me ask you this, have you not learnt anything in the last 4 years since you have been out of Yeshiva? Would you do the same things today that you did when you were 15 or 16 or has your more mature mind, body and soul taught you that some of those things were foolish and irresponsible. Well at our mature and experiences minds, bodies and souls WE are telling you that drinking outside the confines of the shiur at your own seudah table is foolish and irresponsible. It effects not only yourself but others around you, and you might not even wake up the next day remembering or knowing who you have to apologize to.
One more thing. When my son was in YFR, it was my daughter who drove his friends home after the mesibah at 2:00 AM. Their own families were not willing to wait up for them, nor did they arrange a designated driver. Was this because their own fathers were drunk as well? f Was it because they told their kids not to drink? Was it because they told their parents they wouldn’t drink?? These were YFR Beis Medrash boys who were smashed and believe me it was an ugly sight. They stayed away from our home for months after that because they were embarrassed from my daughter after my son told them how they got home. They knew they lost her respect and ours.