IR, “boys” who get married should be considered “men” and once they are married they should not be running back to their parents for advice. They should be discussing everything with their spouse and only discuss with parents when they both agree to do so. It is better for a young couple to consult a Rav or a guidance counselor if they have a personal or marital issue before going to parents. I remember in my own “Kallah” class many, many, moons ago the teacher said “Neither one of you should go back with your problems to your parents. Because YOU will forgive each other and move on, but PARENTS will never forget or forgive when their child has been hurt.” That was good advice then and it is good advice now.
Couples should be able to run their own marital household without their parents’ involvement when they get married. And parents should know not to offer advice or pry for information unless and until it is requested.