Reply To: Shidduchim – Meshugas or Acceptable

Very interesting responses. Most think that the girl is better off without this particular boy because with such ideals (whether his own or his families)he is no catch.

I agree with the opinion that the most important thing when looking at the girls family is the environament that she ia brought up in. Is it loving? Does the family get along (usually)? Are middos placed at a high standard? etc. These are what we as Bnei Torah should be looking at. As someone said above would it be better for her brother to enroll in a Yeshiva just so he can say he goes?

We need to stop judging people based on what we think is right. It would be wonderful if all 19 year old boys were sitting and learning multiple sedarim a day. Fact is, not all of them can or are able to. We need to start accepting that reality.