aries2756, back on topic, I just listened to a speaker that didnt have children for 10 years. She was giving advice to outsiders on what to say and what not to say, and an outlook for pple in her situation. One thing she spoke about is that pple do not mean harm. Pple give advice, they give segulos etc she said they mean your best. Try to swallow your pride, thank them, and move on. She stressed that this is not easy, but dont let other outsiders make your challenging situation more stressful than it already is.
Though, she wasnt talking about shiddchim her advice applies to other challenges as well.