jewishandworking22: The present issue being worked on is the issue of age gap. Not because there are no other issues, but because that has been recognized as
1. Clearly the Primary cause of having so many older singles (in the more right wing communities for sure)
2. It is something that is eminently solvable.
When I mentioned making hard choices I was referring to structural change and that can only happen on a communal level not on a person by person basis.
There is no doubt that input from all parties singles/shadchanim/parents is invaluable etc. to discover what other issues are at play.
I for one have heard dozens of theories as to other factors at play. Nothing concrete- nothing provable-nothing actionable.
If you could put together some kind of accurate effective study that is compelling with a clear plan (or basic idea) how to act on it, I have no doubt that there would be action taken on it.
There is no contradiction to age gap and working on other factors as well. Everything helps.
At present their are probably less than 15 people in the country who are actually doing anything about the ROOT causes of the situation.
Your help would be greatly appreciated.