Women are not made to work that hard. We are not superhuman although we are pushed to believe we are. That is until we crack and break down and then everything comes to a screeching halt. We all know what happens to women who are overburdened. We all know what happens to children whose mothers work themselves to the bone and whose fathers are never home. It is not a healthy situation. Not healthy at all for a frum family. There needs to be a balance and a man needs to know that it is unfair to indulge themselves in such a way. Truly it is. Aside from working a father has responsibilities to his children as well as to his wife.
So IMHO, when you are first married and you can afford to allow a young wife to work for a year or two or even after the first baby is born (unfortunately) appreciate it, every minute of it. But as your family grows and as the responsibilities increase, please review. But a husband has to have eyes that see, ears that truly listen, and a lev tov, to his wife more so than to anyone else.
Of course this doesn’t work for everyone, but it should at least be implemented for those it applies to.