oomis1105:
Unless we take the time to understand and face the core issues causing the situation you describe
“Boys have shidduchim suggested ad nauseum, and girls do not”
we have no hope of alleviating.
Thus….
It is clear that the present system creates a larger number of girls entering the shidduch pool each year than boys. Thus all the problems you describe in your rant.
Encouraging close in age shiddcuhim is a start as it inevitably has an indirect of boys and girls dating closer in age.
Going forward (slight) changes to the system are necessary.When the community grasps the full signifignace of teh situation, those changes will happen.
Yesterday my friends wife went to some kind of convention for speech etc. therapists. She was shocked at the ridiculously high number of older single girls who were there. (not a scientific study, but a telling piece of info nonetheless).
youdontknowme: you are 100% correct. NO one is TELLING boys they MUST date girls their own age.
If all boys (and their mothers) had your attitude,
“I’m not very particular about the age of girls I go out with,”
“I don’t think age is all that important,”
Inevitably far more close in age shidduchim would continue to take place.
Kudos to you, and Ki’mocha yirbu bi’yisroel
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