If you are the girl,talk about what kind of music you like, where you would go, if you could go anywhere in the world (money no object), what is the one thing (besides family, siddur, and chumash)you would take with you if you had thirty seconds to get out of your house? Who, other than family and Gedolim, are the three people you most admire… you get the idea. Get the focus of the conversation AWAY from Torah learning, so you can get some idea about the rest of the person, not just his religious hashkafa. The things parents have already learned from the shadchan or the references should have covered whether or not the boy is learned. You need to know what he is like when he is NOT in Yeshivah. Ditto for the girl. What type of chessed does she do, what does she like to read, what does she consider to be a fun way to spend the day? What hobbies do either of them have? Etc. Etc. Etc.
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