Justin2:
It is great to hear from someone who gets it.
Re: Paying a fee to sign up with them. So the girl pays $$ to add her name to a list with 2,000 other girls and there are 500 boys in the database (very common numbers of shadchanims databases). What has the girl gotten for her $$.
I am aware of a organization or two that is trying to do this but it doesn’t work. Unless they charged a ridiculous sum of money that would enable hiring (paying real salaries) to hire enough full time shadchanim to deal with all the girls in the database.
Any one individual shadchan can not foucs on more than 6-7 girls. They may redd a whole bunch of girls shidduchim. But to focus and make a priority, 6-7 is the max.
Go do the math. 2000 girls in a database means minumum 200 shadchanim to ensure focus on each of the girls. 200x 30g (a meager salary) = $6,000,000. Divide that by 2000 girls in the database = 3,000 per girl
I don’t think girls are gonna pay 3,000 to put their name in a database….
Oh – and where are you going to find the 200 shadchanim who are ready to work full time…
FYI- I do think individual girls should track down a shadchan (professional or not) and offer $3,000 (they can probably offer 1,500 to 2,000) and contract them to focus on them. I define focus that a shadchan who focuses on a indivudual that is (for lack of a better term) “marketable”- the shadchan can produce 3-4 quality dates per. That is the nature of the present shidduch situaltion as we have it.
YES americais over is correct, Money talks. and individual girls should look to hire private advocates as that will give them a better shot of getting quality dates and thus getting married.