youdontknowme:
I still don’t think you get my point.
When someone tutors your child, do you leave a tip to get better service next time- or do you pay them because they invested time and energy into helping your child.
Who pays if it breaks off???? whoever went out on the date (or the parents). The service the shadchan provides was arranging appropriated dates (thus paying after 3 dates as opposed to one date).
Our whole paradigm is off base- and it’s high time we corrected it.