Ames, I think you have some insecurities, but don’t know if that should carry weight as a general practice.
First of all, doesn’t your husband think you are the most fabulous person he ever met, and would never even think about another woman? If not, try cooking him a fancier breakfast. That ought to do the trick.
But seriously, do you get upset if your husband walks into a CVS and there is a female cashier behind the counter? They always say hello. I mean this issue goes far beyond good shabbos. You must be nervous 24/7, and that is not healthy.