firstly, it’s “v’nishmartem meod lenafshoseichem”
and it’s “hakol b’yidei shamayim chutz m’yiras shamayim”
about smoking, very nice to say that girls would never consider a smoker. well, guess what – most of those girls will end up dating smokers because you have no idea before you go out with someone if the boy smokes. although some people do, many people dont think of asking about every boy if he smokes or not. even when you do ask, the references dont always know if the boys smoke or not, and if the boys smoke but not heavily, the references will not always tell you.
so…, girls out there.. if you want to know if a boy smokes – ask him! that’s the only way to really find out. and you’ll be surprised to find out how many times the answer will be yes. at that point, if he wont tell you, you have bigger problems to deal with…
So many yeshiva boys smoke and many of these are top learners. the roshei yeshiva dont speak against it because some of them smoke themselves. how can you blame a boy for smoking when his father smokes, his brothers all smoke, all his friends smoke and his rosh yeshiva smokes????
i heard of a certain yeshiva that before second seder the whole yeshiva packs out for smoking time!!! bochurim and maggidei shiur…they all pack out together! if this is who the boys are learning from, why would they stop??