Mazca, I think there’s something called Berger’s syndrome, a horrible condition smokers can face that just shows how addictive this is.
That smoking is considered an outlet for a boys is a travesty that should be countered with as much energy and vocals as the age gap. If our boys need outlets, or show latent talent, let’s give them music, shop, etc. Now there’s this condescending attitude, nebach, your son NEEDS that mishegas. That mishegas can be valuable tools for life (e.g. shop) or vehicles of great chesed (e.g. music in nursing homes, etc.)