AZ:
So long as the numbers are skewed strongly in favor of the boys why in the world should they go to shadchanim. They have plenty of names to chose from without going to shadchanim. The girls have no choice – so they do whatever the can get a date.
Yes, true, whether fellow CR mates agree or not.
Happy girl:
So what happens to the guys once they get older and are not married? well, they become less frum, drink alcohol, do drugs, become lax in halacha with girls, become lax in kosher…they move out of their parents home …..
Not neccesarily, the unmarried guys, as they age, often just want a more modern lifestyle including TV and Movies and a more cool, possibly less Tzniusdik girl. Few go to the lengths you describe.
mybat:
Okay, so if I would have a daughter that is in high school I would make sure that she starts going out as soon as she is 17 with guys that are between the ages of 20-25. That way she’ll actually have a shot at getting married since she will have a head start.
No way. Maybe in Sephardic or Chassidic circles, a 17 year old is desirable, but in the Yeshivish world, a girl has to provide means of support, meaning either a rich Dad or an education. In the college world, few if any guys will go out with an not-yet educated girl.