If the boy (or his mother) wants a picture, then the boy’s family should be willing to provide a picture for the girl.
Some boys are really not “put together” and some of them are – well – overweight. I was trying to red a shidduch to a bochur who was so overweight his stomach stuck out over his belt, and all he could ask was, “Is she really skinny?” The girl has just as much a right to look for a “skinny” guy as the guys have to look for a “skinny” girl. In fact, giving the risk of heart attacks for overweight guys, she may have more of a right, since she would ch”v be the one left a widow to bring up the kids.
The shidduch scene has gotten really strange in the last ten years. Can’t we come up with better solutions?