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Imagine if a child gets a prize for sitting in his seat. And he gets a prize for doing his homework on time. And he gets a prize for not talking during class. And he gets a prize for sharing his toys at recess. And he gets a prize for davening. Which of those prizes means the most to him? He gets the same reward for davening as he does for sitting in his seat. And so far, none of those prizes were for anything outstanding. What lesson has he just learned?
Does anybody here have a job where you get a reward for showing up at work on time? For sitting at your desk when you’re supposed to? For doing your job?
Let’s reserve the prizes and awards for outstanding achievement. Not for doing what’s expected.