A different tack (although youdontknowme has some good advice):
Try to go out with someone who is normal, instead of someone who fits into the box of what you are looking for. Is 5 years in Kollel that neccessary versus just 2 (just as an example). Someone who wants to live OOT is also given a short stick (even though they are normal for everything else :-), perhaps that is the direction you should try.
If you are willing to look outside the box that has been created for you by society & Sem, you will Bezras Hashem find many normal boys who just don’t have an exact “fit” into our current society’s expectations, but who will make an amazing spouse and father who will buld a home of Torah.
B’hatzlacha and may we hear simchos.
G@W