Chas V’shalom To even consider that Yaakov Avinu married Rachel for her looks.
The Torah merely tells us that Rachel Imeinu was not only beautiful on the inside,
but on the outside as well. Rachel was his Zivug, as indicated when Yosef was born,
Yaakov was ready to leave Lavan. (please see Rashi Z”L for more details)
That is also why he made for Yosef the Kesones Pasim. Yosef is reffered to by Chazal
as Tzaddik. Also elaborated in Sifrei Chassidus.
If the girl you like, based on her middos, personality, etc.. happens to be pretty,
Kol Hakavod! If not, So what? The middos and personality will be a factor in building a Bayis Ne’man, not her looks. Though I cannot stress enough, the importance of liking the general appearance of your future spouse. That’s it though.
Any more delving in ridiculous shtusim as if a size 5 or 6 makes the girl a better mother for your children, or that if she went to seminary plonit instead of Plonis, makes her unacceptable, C’mon people! Wake up! When your still single at 40, I think
you’ll have plenty of time to ponder where you went wrong with your over-analyzing
petty, Gaivah’dige ways. Would you want your real basherteh to over-analyze you when you get redt to her, turning you down cause you do not measure up to her high standards? Leave the Cheshboinois To HB”H. If the Shidduch sound like they have good middos, a warm family. I dont mean middos, as in dress size, and i dont mean warm as in hefty bank account. Then you’ll find your Basherteh much faster.