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“can” means that if you are willing to accept your shortcomings and those of the people who are in your relative arena, you can find a compatible spouse. Not a perfect one, as anyone knows there is no such thing, but one with which you can both build a future.
And it makes no difference if you’re 30 or 45, there ARE people in your situation who would make a good partner. Does that mean at 40 you need to make peace with a size 16? Or someone with 8 kids? Depends on what you’re bringing to the table. But to reject someone becuase “its not what I’m looking for”? PLease, after you’ve dated 200+ people you still cant find someone that fits your bill, the problem is in your lap, not the shadchans. (makes no diffenrce which gender you are). I overheard my wife on the phone discussing a shidduch with a friend about 2 people in very their late 20s. From the questions, you would think they were talking about a just out of the freezerBMG boy and a just off the plane Sem girl. Hello? At this age and after the number of folks they have turned down, they should just go out. Yes, I know it costs $100+ to go on a date, and its lots of work and preparation and there is always the chance of being disapointed. Know what? Marrige is the same thing. And if at almost 30 these 2 kid are still not grasping what’s involved, there is a crisis of a different sort