estherh said;
“Remember for a shidduch: We are looking 4 partners 4 our children and not ourselves.”
I agree. Many mothers turn down a shidduch, not because it is not a good match for 4 her child, but because it doesn’t pass for what she wants as daughter/son in-law,
or mechutenista. That is why later when she find a suitable match for herself,
it doesn’t work out, cuz it’s nat a match for her child.