please stop saying this doesn’t make mathematical sense. clearly u don’t understand the problem and/or solution. this idea is in essence the exact same thing as what is currently going on. encouraging boys starting to date, who are for the most part between 22-23 yrs old, to date girls within 2 yrs of themselves is to prevent girls from dating till they turn 20 unless a boy is dating before he’s 22. all this adds is to make a clear “rule”. as far as the math, its quite simple, by asking girls to hold off on dating, they will end up dating boys closer to them in age which greatly reduces the difference in the numbers if not eliminates it. (btw, this whole approach to solve the shidduch crisis is based on the belief that a boy is likely to marry within a relatively short period of time whether he is dating 22 yr olds or 19 yr olds, so by going out only with 22 yr olds he’ll probably marry one, while if he also went out with 19 yr olds he may marry one of them. basically, a boy can marry more than one girl and its a matter of who comes first. if you’re of the belief that everyone has only one “bashert” and is pre destined to marry their “bashert” no matter what then it’s gonna be a whole lot harder to grasp the solution to the shidduch crisis. it’s still doable but harder.)
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