Bemused makes good points.
One point I would like to add, while I think NY Mom’s position taken on this thread is mistaken, I do not think NY Mom has engaged in any of the referenced activity here. I do think those folks themselves, as Bemused pointed out, fail to recognize what they are doing at the very time it is happening.
And who even knows whats going on outside this service, as a result of the contacts made. Some (very) limited contact I’ve seen has been tolerated if with no one else than the site admins.