To mezonos maven: I in no way meant to equate working with shaking hands etc.; I wasn’t as careful as I should have been in my writing, in a rush. I simply meant that there are realities that we can’t ignore. Women have been working for decades now.
And from what I see, I don’t know how one can make it one income unless that income has been incoming since day one. Many people leave kollel making LESS at entry level than they were able to cobble together in kollel. Not pashut.