A 600KiloBear cannot decide which he prefers–simply to condemn the State for Zionism–or to condemn the State for not be assertive enough in its nationalism. I thoroughly enjoy this little problem.
I am also a citizen of the US. If you don’t like your tax money paying for Israel’s defense needs (which is by far the recipient of most US aid), lobby your congressperson. I’m sure you can find others who agree with you, and may you enjoy their company. As far as your community’s support- the vast majority of Hareidim support only Hareidi institutions. While Chabad does do other community work, it is one of very few Hareidi groups that does so. That still is not comparable to dedicating years of your life in National Service, and it does not come close to comaparing to putting your life on the line in the IDF.
Again, if you think that the government is incompetent or evil–we live in a democracy, and the government can be changed. Of course, there is that small matter of who gets to participate. Luckily, the law as it currently stands ensures that only those who are citizens, and are in the country on election day, may vote.