Coming from the litvish circles I definately have heard this. As people above posted saying someone’s name makes an instant kesher and that’s not the purpose of a shidduch date. When a couple is sitting in let’s say a private quiet hotel lounge and the guy addresses the girl by her name, it is a undeniable fact of nature that she will feel a changed attraction for the guy she’s dating. Only once a couple is sure that they found their bashert should first names be used. Otherwise on a date, the guy and girl are completely focused on eachother so there is no reason to say anything like “hey you” to catch their attention.
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