AZ, I TOTALLY disagree with your suggestion to pay shadchanim $$$ after only 3 dates. PERHAPS people should give some MODEST tangible thanks ACCORDING TO WHAT THEY CAN, such as flowers, a gift certificate. I say this not just because I can’t afford this but because it is just WRONG!
I wish I had more time to elaborate but I have to run now. Hopefully someone will carry this further who is not as RILED UP as I am right now.
I am trying my best to go along with this program, but please, if you are going to posit yourself as spokesman, don’t make such suggestions without clearing this by people who are willing to be NAMED!