Mazca – I’m sorry to hear that you are divorced. I have a close relative who is divorced and it is not easy and very sad, especially for the children. And you sound like someone who’s got her “head on straight”, as they say.
However, I know of a case where a divorcee was giving advice to a friend’s wife and she almost caused a divorce between them. And they have a small child! They were actually at the Rav to get the get, but the Rav insisted they try again. B”H for that Rav and B”H they worked it out, but you might be able to imagine a bitter divorcee putting his/her interpretation on things and causing strife between a husband and wife. Understand now why I said to speak to someone who is happily married?