This story from AZLZ, reminded me that the father of a girl once called a friend of a friend as a reference for the first friend’s son. He asked the friend about the boy, and she gave a deservedly glowing report in all areas, learning, middos, education, seichel, chessed, etc. So what did the father ask (and Sir, if you are reading this, please learn from your actions): “Yes, I hear all of what you are saying – but if you had to find SOMETHING wrong with him, what would it be???” The friend was astonished and reiterated that the boy was mamesh a metziah ( and he really is). But this did not satisfy the father. He was most insistent that she reveal something negative. Of course she did not, as she had nothing negative to say to begin with and the shidduch did not go forward from the boy’s side.
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