I recently dated a guy who let me know on the first date that he has been and is in therapy for abuse that occurred when he was a child. It didn’t work out between us, but not because of that; I admire his honesty for telling me as well as his strength in seeking help and coping. Therapy rebuilt his character, confidence, and maturity.
Obviously, he didn’t have to tell me that soon. However, it would give me pause if I started to get serious with someone and he had never mentioned going for serious, long-term therapy. I would never reject someone just for being in therapy, but for something that’s such a big part of someone’s life, I would be very puzzled as to why he had never mentioned it. Sadly, those who are ashamed of going to therapy are probably the ones who need it most.