“oomis1105 – I wasn’t sure what you were implying. You seemed to be giving your own take… You quoted Rav Elyashuv’s reasoning, and then wrote, “the converse could also be true.” So, while I’m sure you din’t mean any disrespect – it sounded that way. But, thanks for the clarification.”
Nope, I was quoting Artchill, who described what R’ Elyashiv said as an EXPLANATION, not as a p’sak. I therefore offered my own observation that it could just as easily be explained in the other direction, that this could also be viewed in terms of showing respect to the LIVING parent. So the converse COULD also make sense. There was absolutely nothing disrespectful in what I said. If in fact R’ Elyashiv issued his p’sak on this matter and not just an explanation, then that is what we follow. But NO one has said it is a p’sak, and things can be explained in many different equally valid ways, which is why we say shivim panim l’Torah. I am glad you are clear on what I meant.