I think this whole forum boils down to the type u r. R u chassidish then ur parents do a most of the legwork. In the Litvishe world, parents have minimum say to their children’s shidduchim.
Interstingly enough though, Dr. Yael Respler, who is not chassidish, constantly praises the chassidishe method of dating, and encourages Litvishe to encorprate this method as well.
For those of u that dont know Dr. Yael, she deals with hundreds of marriage/divorce counselings. so I would venture to say she has LOADS of experience.