“In the Shidduch scene, every dater enters a potential relationship with the attitude of: this could be my bashert; I’m going to focus and put everything I can into this relationship. Double dating does not facilitate this mindset, and I would say it does “use” the unknowing people involved. “
I hear your point, but soemtimes when someone goes on a first date with that mindset, one can come off as a little desperate. It’s just a date. And in the shidduch world, it’s just a meeting and nothing really more, in many cases. Sometimes the knowledge that there is another date with someone else arranged for the next day, takes some of that desperation pressure off. I know you probably will not agree with me, but it is only my opinion, it does not have to also be yours.