I wanted to add that many times a girl does not realize that livush does not equal a boy. Sometimes it’s in a good sense and sometimes in a more negative sense. But from personal experience I can say that you can be SHOCKED at what’s really under that hat.
This may not be the usual- but you sure need to check your facts. Livush absolutely should NOT be a deal breaker. I personally know someone that waited many years till she came to the realization that it just doesn’t matter! And her chosson proves it!
You don’t need to go from baseball caps to streimels. But we need to be more open-minded and expand the range that we’re willing to consider.