AZ, look at my post above. I showed that only in some cases, would forcing marriages closer in age help and in some cases do nothing. But, you choose to ignore it because it doesn’t fit with your numbers. Those were the ones taken directly out of the Avi Chai study.
As far as bashert – to me, if you lead a happy, fulfilling, Torah life with your spouse and family, it IS bashert.
Perhaps not all women are meant to get married. Is there anything written in Jewish works about that? Did all women always statistically get married?