To Azoi.is: You say, “[t]his leaves… who aren’t the most desirable.”
Them’s fightin words! You mean to say that ALL or even MOST older girls aren’t as desirable? You obviously don’t know what’s out there. I know girls who have everything – yichhus, looks, and money, not to mention a sterling personality – who are still on the market. I can only assume that you mean that maybe there are girls who are still around due to maybe not having enough money, etc., so any such chisaron makes them less desirable on the meat market. Still a very distasteful way of phrasing things. Don’t talk about bnos Yisrael this way.
And BTW, I don’t know too much about Chassidishe circles. I guess things have changed because I was under the impressio that they started working sooner rather than later.