AZOI.IS:
Ah, yes very well said.
The obvious answer is why are you sending your children to these schools and expecting NOT to support them, if thats what they get from the schools!
The non-obvious (and by default) answer is “too bad. At this point, deal with what you’ve got”.
Or if you are lucky. you have been teaching them about reality the whole time (through High School & Sem), so that they understand what it takes. Perhaps you made your child partially pay for Sem? Perhaps a Budget?
The sorry end of the story is, I know a number of girls who are in that exact position (“need” a learner but can’t support). Most (Ruba D’Ruba) of them are not married.