my last post didnt come through, so I am going to edit and rephrase it in case something is objectionable.
1)by having men wait then the older women will be able to find someone (statistically) as long as the older men dont take 18 year olds
2) what is wrong having women get a real job? there are not enough teaching positions, those you can find dont pay well, every child does not need speech therapy and the way it seems is that there will be one child for every therapist and no more, and while special ed is needed, they dont need that many special ed teachers.
3) why count on father in laws? sometimes they cant pay, with the economy the way it is, they can pay today and tomorrow be out of a job. dont count on it! find a way to make money without counting on the in laws! i know great girls who cant get a shidduch because of money- how sad is that! get a job yourself!