“I understand where you are coming with your example, but I do disagree with the premise. Woman are obligated in certain mitzvot – they are not obligated in child rearing. I think a better example is to look at women who daven maariv. They are not obligated, but if it helps them spiritually, it is important for them. If they choose to go to minyan because they find that more spiritually uplifting, that is great for them – but again, no obligation.”
Did you really say that once a woman has children, she has no obligation to raise them?!? Please clarify because I am sure that I must have misunderstood.