tzippi, no one is asking anyone to make their kids guinea pigs. The issue of change is one that relates to the person who needs to change. You have a right to continue to be cautious. He is the one who must understand that there is no such thing as “sexual orientation” – that is a propaganda term invented to pretend that their sickness is actually a natural urge as opposed to a disease of the yetzer.
The Gemara talks about what behaviors cause one to develop these urges.