Reply To: Short Dating Time

Joseph:

You need to calm down a bit. oomis was just stating her experience, not that the gedolim were wrong. Who said that other ways are not the right way. I dated for an extended period of time (6 months) and it worked very well for me. I got to know my spouse even more then if i would have dated for a week and then got engaged. i am happy i did so because there were things that we needed to work out before we got married. the mistake of getting married to a person who you barley know is grave and costly. The gedolim are not wrong but it is geared towards the very yeshivish crowd. I too have seen a few couples that got engaged and married then within the first year they were divorced.

Just a tip, maybe you should show a little respect. you never know who you are talking to in the CR. It sounds like you are a very smart and learned person, its time to act like one and stop bashing everyones opinion. Please be fair and not rude.