There’s no reason for it to take that long, **DELETED** –YW Moderator-25. I can’t think of a single posek that would allow you to date a woman for three years before marriage. We can argue over two dates, three dates, ten, or whatever, but I think we can all agree that three years is too much.
You realize that people used to be engaged for a year right? It was very common. Three years might not be right for YOU, but it doesnt mean its wrong for others. Can you quote a posek that says its assur to date for three years?? I married my husband after three years of knowing him (1.5 years of dating and a 9 month engagement). It worked well for us.
I thought they were more liberal in CA…