Not to discredit anyone in their professional status, but how do marriage counselors know what happens behind the front doors of the house? a) the chassidish or those who use their methods of dating may not go to marriage counselors, even if it might be necessary. As stated before, many people would rather have marriages full of conflict, abuse and problems than go to the “tabboo” counselors. The very mention of a counselor is enough to destroy people’s reputations in the world we live. Someone says they went to one and their, and their children’s, marriage prospects become limited.
b) People may lie as to what really happens in their house. People put up a front, have excuses or manage to otherwise hide what really happens.
And by the way, what does a marriage counselor have except stories and feelings? Isnt that how they help? How do you know that others here are not marriage counselors,psychologists ect just because their screen name does not have their profession listed?