“It felt slimy and invasive so we’re waiting till it can be done k’seder.”
So it doesn’t feel slimy and invasive when the BOY is doing the checking about YOU??? I would feel so much worse if I knew someone was checking into me and then decided against the shidduch. Both sides have the same risk of rejection. it should not be one side or the other. JMO.
I do not 100% agree with havesomeseichel’s opinion that the boy and girl should be 1-2 years apart in age. The boys and girls should be set up with compatible people. That may be an age gap of four years or eight years, or no years. Age should be only one of many criteria and not a main one. people focus too much on the number and not the personalities involved. Yes, it would seem ideal that a boy and girl should be within a reasonable age range, but it doesn’t always work out that way, and our kids should not be limiting themselves these days and potntially missing out on a good shidduch.