This “crises” exists, but only to the extent that we make a big deal of it to the general klal. If kids were not brought up hearing about the “crises” they would not start dating and “pushing”, making others want to jump in so to still have a place. what makes a girl “old” if she is 22 or 23 before she finds her beshert? It is not old, and girls of that age should not be treated as second-rate, just because they were not lucky enough to find it before they hit 21! People need to realize that if 22 is the new “old maid” then those nearing that age bracket will be considered “almost spoiled” or whatever terminology that you wish to use. By marrying those closer to your age, there will be more people “within range” or more people. if you have all the older bochurim getting set up with younger, who will the younger boys get if not those even younger! But, if the boys would get someone 1-2 years younger than they are, then this gap can be closed.
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