Oomis, you refer to the shtuss of the boy having to say yes first. Why is this a shtuss? Let the girl do the rejecting, not the boy, it helps maintain the girl’s dignity.
What’s happening now is that boys have say, 100 names. The girls ARE being given the boys’ names first, check them out, and this way the boys are able to narrow the list down to the girls who already said yes. I don’t like it, and much prefer that the boys be given our info (not up to our boys yet) first.