R’ Zalman, as you can tell I have never learned gemorra nor do I wish to, and the back and forth of this, is just not that exciting for me.
Just be a mentch–since he’s going to walk in first, I imagine most bochurim wouldn’t expect the girl to open the door for him. This is just the way it is. No women’s lib no chivalry, no going against shulchan oruch or halacha……if she does end up opening the door first, so what. (I think it’s less likely to happen).Then he’ll go in first and they’ll continue. I hope this was sufficient, because if it wasn’t I honestly don’t know what else to say other then Shalom Al Yisroel, and may all those in klal yisroel who are looking for they zivug find it b’karov and build a bayis ne’eman biyisroel no matter who opened the door!!!!