moish, “i’m sure i’d want a wife frummer than i am now and shabbos and yom tov and all that.”
Buddy how dyu think that happens? It ain’t magic unfortunately! Trust me I’m in shidduchim and because I also had a past I sometimes get red to guys that were at one point semi off the D. It makes a huge difference to me when the guy started changing and becomming frummer…if he was 15 or if he was 19!
Just keep your eyes on what you want eventually out of life and hopefully that should stop you from doing things that are not the awesomest.