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striving – like oomis said, the fact that you thought about this puts you ahead of the game. Noone has a right to expect parents to support. If they volunteer that’s great, but no one can demand it or expect it.
That said, it’s feasible to start off with a guy learning full time if you have a little bit of money saved up – summer, side jobs, post sem real job, etc. As the need arises, if your salary is not enough, your husband can also take on a side job, be it in chinuch or something else. Having a part time job will in no way take away his title of ben torah, if thats what in essence he is.
About your profession – go for something that you enjoy and that is practical at the same time. Social work can provde a decent income. It’s not like you’re looking to go into a field that only provides minimal income. Ultimately, you want soemthing that you enjoy and that can be flexible enough when iy”H you’ll be raising a family.
On another note, I spoke to a Rav before I went out with a working boy. He very strongly told me that because someone is learning, that does not automatically make him a true ben torah. There are so many truly admirable working guys who are constantly striving to do the right thing. They may be working due to finances or because they never found themselves able to sit and learn for a length of time. A person is not only what they do, but more importantly who they are…
Hatzlacha!